Choose Nourishing over Numbing with Tanis Frame

Guest Post by Libre Leading Light Tanis Frame

Tanis is a science-geek, soul-sister, thrive-catalyst, playevangelist,
world champion, and mom to two fierce
young girls. She is also the powerhouse behind the
DECIDE to THRIVE REVOLUTION- inspiring women to
live their lives in full colour and to make the daily
choices that lead

Decide to Thrive: Choose Nourishing over Numbing

I’m passionate about ridiculously simple, research-based tools that support us to thrive. One of my favorite rituals and tools is my NOURISH CARD, aka my “when life sucks list”.

Every day we humans (yes all of us) come up against uncomfortable moments, vulnerable human moments. We’re stretching ourselves in new ways, venturing into new territory, or perhaps having a ‘triggering’ experience (you know, one of those darn growth opportunities!). Sometimes it’s big, but often so small and so subtle we don’t even notice it.

Running on automatic pilot we are wired to move away from the discomfort, so we often subconsciously choose to numb ourselves out, distract ourselves, take the edge off…  Glass of wine, surfing on Netflix, numbing out on social media, ‘comforting’ ourselves with chips or chocolate, new shoes…

Numbing takes you down in a negative spiral, away from the discomfort. Nourishing lifts you up, it gives you the loving support and capacity to move through the discomfort, rather than run away from it.

When I discovered this I made a list:


What are some loving nourishing things you can do for yourself when you’re feeling vulnerable, overwhelmed, or jonesing to numb out a bit?

A few ideas:

Here’s what my NOURISH CARD looks like.

Nature: get outside, look up at the sky, feel the wind on your face

Movement: a walk, a little yoga, dancing

Create: writing, doodling, painting, baking, knitting

Music: turn it on, make some music, sing along

Tea: put on the kettle, savour a tea moment

Connect: call a close friend, get a hug from a loved one

If you’re curious to learn more about the science behind numbing, nourishing, and why actually making yourself a ‘Nourish Me Card’ matters – learn more at

While you’re there sign up to receive my new Nourish PLAYbook. We will dive into more depth and walk you through the WHY and HOW of creating and using your very own NOURISH CARD. I’m thrilled to share this with you! 




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